Ever wondered, why you feel certain emotions? How do some emotions take over others?
~ Much like intellectual intelligence, human beings are capable of cultivating a form of intelligence that primarily comprises of understanding emotions. Popularly known as emotional intelligence (EQ). EQ is the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions as well as emotions of others around us.
~ EQ comprises of three fundamental elements: emotional awareness, emotional application, and emotional management (Emotional Intelligence, 2016).
- Emotional awareness is the understanding and awareness of our emotions in every passing moment.
- Emotional application is the ability to adequately apply these emotions in our day-to-day lives.
- Emotional management is exploring the plethora of emotions that are present in our surroundings. Then, conscientiously managing them to gain control of life by not letting our emotions take over our better selves.
~ Emotionally intelligent individuals tend to have trustworthy relationships. They spend time listening, understanding, and empathizing with the people in their surroundings. This makes them a reliable friend, partner, colleague, parent, etc. The ability to be emotionally aware also becomes an asset under highly stressful situations, making such people resilient human beings.
So, how do we cultivate EQ?
~ Mindfulness, which is a present moment awareness practice, breeds EQ. It supports individuals in getting attuned to their emotions by helping them comprehend, recognize, and finally strengthen the ability to manage their emotional wellness.
~ Home practice: To mindfully cultivate EQ in your life, notice the emotions that come up for you in your moment-to-moment awareness. If negative emotions surface, let them be. Perhaps take a moment or two to bring compassion to these emotions. Emotions that are chaotic in nature are not the best in bringing out our productivity. Get in tune with your emotions by not letting them hijack your mind before you perform any action today! It’s worth a try.